'...Our practice is to die slowly, step by step, gradually dis-identifying with wherever we're caught in. If we're caught anywhere we have not died...Consider your husband or boyfriend or girlfriend - that need. The longer we practice, the more minimal that need becomes. The love becomes greater and the need less. We can't love something we need. If we need approval, we haven't died. If we need power, if we need to have a certain position, if it's not okay with us to do the most menial job, we haven't died. If we need to be seen in a particular way, we haven't died. If we need to have things our way, we haven't died. I haven't died in any of these ways...All I can be is who I am right now; I can experience that and work with it. That's all I can do. The rest is the dream of the ego.' Joko Beck